Why More Family Courts?

“Chennai to get 4 more family courts”, read The Hindu headlines last week. The word ‘family court’ is synonymous to me with just the ‘D’ word. And, it brought back memories of a difficult phase I had been through. It also reminded me of the emotional upheaval that I went through last week (This week, I am coming to terms with it).


The entire last week has been physically and emotionally draining: Physical due to a stringent deadline at work and Emotional, as I meant, due to few of my close friends walking the path. For me, it’s been 4 years; for my friends, it has just started—officially. For a few, it’s liberating and for others, it is nothing short of a pain that’s increasing with each passing day. 


All this has only increased the number of questions or thoughts in my head; a few are listed below. 


So, what is going wrong with our people that we need more family courts? Why are divorce rates increasing? Are we so cruel to each other? Have our expectations exceeded than required? To put in the current scenario, is it a case of relationship ‘intolerance’? There is another way to think about it. Is it good to separate than to stay in a lifeless marriage? Is it better to ‘live’ life than to suffocate in an abusive marriage?


Is life really that complex? Is it so difficult to find a compatible spouse? Isn’t life all about partnership and companionship? Does the solution lie in living a fair and empathetic life? Should we abide by - Live and Let Live? 

On a parting note: Does this solution solve just the marital issues or most of the issues that humans are facing today?

Comments

  1. deepsDecember 29, 2015 at 11:43 AM

    well... for some questions unfortunately there isnt any answer

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    1. Bharathi BhaskarDecember 29, 2015 at 2:32 PM

      @deeps - True. There are lot of things that need to be imbibed from childhood. Thanks for the read.

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    2. Bharathi BhaskarJanuary 3, 2016 at 11:44 PM

      @deeps - True. There are lot of things that need to be imbibed from childhood. Thanks for the read.

      Delete
  2. ArchanaDecember 29, 2015 at 2:33 PM

    Amazing ya. Time will answer all questions

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