A Woman in the Making

If only we could understand our shortcomings If only we knew what lay behind that face If only we could read all that was said between words If only we could fast forward and see the road ahead If only we could understand the unreal world we were living in But what is the point? Had it not for it: We wouldn't have grown the way we did We wouldn't have learned to stay afloat in spite of all of it We wouldn't have our share to reflect upon But yes, the heart is broken into many pieces that can never heal Would we still have changed the path? What do you say? Should we?

I have spoken about this topic in many posts here. This is a solution-oriented post where I have shared an approach that has worked for me. If you are dealing with something, I hope it may work for you too. Our body, the environment, the Universe is equipped to help us deal with issues in our everyday life. There are three factors that play a role while in the situation. Factor 1: External Factors External factors such as changing a city, coloring our hair, talking to friends may help deal with the issue. We can find our answers and move on. Factor 2: Internal Factors Our bodies, our thoughts help us. It motivates us to deal with the situation the right way. You push your body to perform, your mind to work, to find solutions. Factor 3: Go Blank There are other times when we just go blank with issues and situations. Nothing works. External factors don’t help. The push, the motivation, the strength is just isn’t left in us. We are emotionally, physically and mentally drained. There is ...

Can you re-live days? Yes. Can you re-live emotions? Yes. Can you re-live relationships? Yes. But, do they move your heart the same way as then? NO. Is it important that you remember? I think, yes. You should never forget where you started from. Be it a good experience or learning. Re-visiting helps. In many different ways. I have had a history with this day. A decision that I executed on this day changed my life. I stepped out of my parent's home to start living on my own. I eloped with a guy with whom. This step got me away from my family till date. I still do not speak with them and am not married to that guy anymore. Probably I can say a new life started for me at 22. Till date, I do not regret the decision. Yet for many years, I was an emotional wreck on this day. I would cry the entire day. I wouldn’t get out of my bed. I wouldn’t eat well. The pain of a broken marriage pierced me more than leaving my parents’ house. The pertinent question haunted me – Why Me? By the end of t...