When Life Gives You Lemons (Post No.4)

I read a beautiful movie quote some time back―Few things in life should be accepted without asking questions. Do I really believe in this? Did I ever think of it during the trying situations? Do I accept life without asking questions? What do you do in such circumstances? I do not know how you deal with it, but let me share an incident when I went with the flow.

After my divorce, I was perpetually feeling low and helpless. I did not know what I should do next. I had resigned my job. I had no access to the internet or a smartphone. The days were so unlike now when you can ‘google’ your questions and find innumerable relevant and irrelevant answers online. I was finding answers to a lot of questions by just ‘thinking’. I was capable of boring anyone to death with my sob story. I just wanted someone to tell me what went wrong and why.

I used to stay in a hostel where working girls were busy in their own life. I was particular that I wanted a single sharing room for I knew I can’t handle any more loneliness, at the same time can’t be amongst a couple of giggling girls. I was expecting a matured roommate who would give me insights, but to my disappointment, I got stuck with a sweet 19-year-old who was hopelessly in love. I didn’t want to spoil her ‘honeymoon’ phase in love, hence stayed away with my queries.

I had a school friend. You can call him as my 3 a.m. friend. He literally was. Our conversations used to start after 10 p.m. (after his work hours) till wee hours, probably 3-4 a.m. I have lost count on how many days we dissected my ‘failed’ relationship, the solution to my problem, my way ahead from here and what not. (I am eternally thankful to him for bearing with me throughout. I have a dedicated poem for him here; penned by me.)

Coming back, did I get my answer? I did. 

So, when did I get my answers? It was then when I stopped thinking about it. When I did not want to relive my past by overthinking. When I no more wanted any answers. When I started living for the day. When I wanted to live for myself. When I believed in myself. When I knew I gave more than what was required in a relationship. When I was convinced that some things are meant to be that way. When I believed―Few things in life should be accepted without asking questions. 😊

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  1. UnknownMarch 18, 2017 at 8:31 PM

    Sometimes you should just leave things the way they are......

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    1. Bharathi BhaskarMarch 20, 2017 at 10:33 PM

      Yes, very true @Jagriti Rai. However, I learnt this lesson quite late in life. Thanks for the read :)

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